Paula’s Happy Place

By |2020-01-28T11:01:40+13:00January 28th, 2020|

Paula’s Happy Place

It’s been a rough start to the New Year dealing with the death of a close friend and struggling with a sense of loss experienced by people close to me.

What do you say to a dying friend who tells you she’s frightened? Do you mine the depths of avoidance and distraction, or do you front up with respect and love in the hope of providing some solace, providing […]

What the Best Advice?

By |2020-01-28T12:58:26+13:00January 15th, 2020|

Whats the Best Advice You Ever Received?

I’ve a wonderful friend who’s older than me. Throughout my child-rearing daze, she was always ten years ahead, offering sage advice at every stumble.

Her words of wisdom still guide me today. One of the most notable was the following:

“Before going out anywhere make sure your nipples are aligned.” 

Thank you, Mrs Marais! 

I know it’s not funny for all those who have breastfed! But when you […]

Getting the Job Done

By |2020-01-28T12:59:19+13:00January 12th, 2020|

Getting the Job Done

I am working on two books this year – my 2020 goals!

If it’s anything like my exercising and healthy eating goals, I won’t stand a chance.

But I’ve committed myself to churn out 2,000 words a day on my new book, “Sophia,” which I started in December last year. So far, I am up to 44,000 words. YES, you’re right. I don’t have a life! I need around […]

New Year New Dare 2020

By |2020-01-28T13:00:07+13:00January 2nd, 2020|

New Year, New Dare!

I have a policy of never looking back.

That stuff is all done and dusted, it’s sentenced to a fixed way of being, and there’s nothing much you can do about it. Some self-help proponents advise apologising to those you have wronged. I’ve tried it. It works sometimes …

But if you’re into letting go and moving forward, you often don’t need to pick the scab off some failure […]

The Taste of Christmas

By |2019-12-16T16:15:02+13:00December 16th, 2019|

Taste of Christmas

I grabbed a fistful of fabric, pulling on my mother’s apron, desperate to get her attention.

She leaned down towards me.

‘What is it darling?’ she smiled, a smudge of cake flour across her rosy cheek.

‘Can I have a turn?’

‘Of course,’ she scooped me up into her strong arms, holding me over the earthenware bowl. Rich smells of cinnamon, all spice, raisins and orange peel, saturated my senses. I involuntarily […]

It Wasn’t Me I Didn’t Do It!

By |2020-01-28T13:01:28+13:00December 15th, 2019|

It Wasn’t Me I Didn’t Do It!

I jumped at the loud rap on my front door.

Two policemen trussed-up in navy-blue uniforms with brass buttons glinting in the early morning light growled at me. The one with a ratty moustache introduced himself. I was in shock and didn’t quite catch the name but the second, shorter and bald, barked, ‘Constable Higgins!’

Where the hell was my husband? […]

How Much Sh*t Is An Overload?

By |2019-12-12T14:51:26+13:00December 10th, 2019|

How Much Sh*t Is An Overload?

It’s almost New Year so it’s time to let go of all the accumulated sh*t that stuck to you during 2019. Take a big breath and let it go.

I should know. I live in a bird house. A grapevine on our deck is home to 30 nesting birds. That means my home reverberates with noise from birds, their kids refusing to fly the coop and […]

Shark Attack (Almost!)

By |2020-01-28T13:02:31+13:00December 2nd, 2019|

Shark Tampering & Tasty Treats

The last time I felt this uneasy, I was swimming at 5 am off the coast of Byron Bay in Australia.

I swam in the early morning half-light with the shoreline behind me, and began body surfing back towards the beach through the calm, even-tempered waves.

On the fourth swim out, in the direction of the […]

What WILD Webs We Weave

By |2019-11-28T15:44:21+13:00November 28th, 2019|

What WILD Webs We Weave!

I’ve just wiped the sweat from my furrowed brow after battling outside trying to drape four meters of tiny LED lights around a couple of outdoor trees.

 You know the drill. I unwisely thought I’d make an attempt to get into the Christmas spirit because I’ve resisted the indoor tree this year.

Do you like my sexy white zinc’d schnoz in keeping with the […]

Short Story About Revenge

By |2019-12-12T14:54:06+13:00November 26th, 2019|

Epidemic Levels of Family Violence

Every five weeks a child dies, and 21 partners have been murdered, so far this year.

Police are called out every three minutes to deal with a family violence in New Zealand and they deal with over 100,000 cases of domestic violence a year. Assistant Police Commissioner for Harm Prevention, Sandra Venerables discussed the complexities of family violence on TV3 today. She explained there had been an […]

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